The calming volatile oil s that I've found so far is Young Living's Peace & Calming essential oil blend. it's a special proprietary blend of tangerine, orange, blue tansy, and patchouli essential oils. Each of those oils individually has been found to assist with things like mood elevation, balancing the male/female energies, bringing emotional equilibrium, relief from negative emotions and promoting relaxation and feelings of well-being. especially is understood historically as an aphrodisiac. It's petals are spread across the wedding bed in Indonesia, and it's used as a floral scent in many perfumes.